About Me
Hi there, and welcome.
I’m really glad you’re here.
I see coaching as a relationship, so I wanted to share a little about me too. (Personally, I like to know something about the person I’m choosing to work with.)
I’m 52 and a mum to a teenage girl who I absolutely adore. And for this chapter of life I’m having a really good crack at doing things that light me up.
My own begin-again moment
When I first moved back, I rented a room in a house with a bookcase filled with books about the brain, mysticism, trauma recovery and personal development. I dove in and became obsessed. I wanted to understand how I had ended up in my thirties feeling like I had nothing of value in my life and, to be honest, my self worth was pretty low.
I’d always been fascinated by human behaviour. I was an aware kid. I saw a lot that other people missed. I was inquisitive, often confused, and always trying to make sense of people. Now I started trying to make sense of myself.
That eventually led me to train as an NLP Practitioner. For the first time, I began to understand that the beliefs, patterns and ways of being we develop aren't set in stone. We can learn, change and make different choices. That blew my mind, and I knew I wanted to work with people.
I had what I think of as a begin-again moment in my thirties. I’d spent years travelling, living in different parts of the world, working in hospitality and pursuing acting. I’ve had so many adventures and for a long time, I loved that life.
After almost 18 years away, I found myself back in Perth, my hometown, completely fucking lost. I was depressed. I had no partner, very few friends and no real sense of purpose or meaning. The work, the travel all the things I had built my life around no longer held any appeal, I had no idea what to do next.
Then I became a mum
My god, if I had been looking for something to anchor me to this world and give my life meaning, this was it. I was in my late thirties when I had my daughter, and she was and still is one of the greatest blessings of my life.
I’ve been doing my own inner work for a couple of decades now, but when she was born, that work became vital to me because the quality of my relationship with my daughter depended on it. She has “called me” (certainly not consciously) to become the mum she has needed — a sturdy, emotionally regulated presence in her life — and to keep doing my own work when I fall short of that.
I became a solo mum when she was one. I knew I needed to provide for us, I also knew I wanted my work to be fulfilling and mean something to me. I decided I wanted to work with young people. Part of me thought that if we could give kids more of what they needed growing up, perhaps there would be fewer adults having to recover from their childhoods.
I trained to mentor girls and young women and became involved in rites of passage and facilitation work. Along the way, I met another woman who had completed the same mentoring training, and together we created Wild, Wise and Worthy, running girls’ circles and workshops for five years.
I learnt a lot during those years, including a lot about myself. Eventually, I found myself coming full circle. I realised I wanted to work with adults again.
Coming full circle
I love depth. I love the conversations we don't always get to have in everyday life.
So I trained as a coach — first in coaching fundamentals and recovery coaching and then therapeutic coaching. Since then, I’ve continued studying and learning about trauma, nervous system regulation, human behaviour and what helps us actually create change in our lives.
What I love most about coaching is creating a space where someone doesn't have to perform or have it all figured out. They get to slow down, talk honestly about what is happening in their life and be fully seen and heard.
I get to watch people understand themselves differently, become kinder to themselves, build their capacity, use their voice, make choices they may once have been afraid to make and begin treating themselves and their lives like they matter.
I know something about that journey myself.
And I genuinely love that this is the work I get to do.
If something in what I’ve shared here resonates with you, and you’re curious about working together, I’d love to hear from you.